Ever since I was a small child, I dreamed of being a king married to my queen. At this young age, these are nothing but fairy tales that we are programmed with by the media. However, I did enjoy them! Let’s see how these fantasies played out in my adult life. I have gone through three divorces and have been divorced since 2010. What happened to the fairy tale? How did my life become such a good example of a bad example of how not to choose a mate?
Hindsight is a perfect science as I contemplated each relationship. I learned to stop blaming them for their games. It was my choice to engage with them in the first place and continue the relationship while my intuition was screaming at me because I was allowing myself to be exploited. I still hold fast to the dream of finding my soulmate. I have met some incredible women; however, they are in relationships, or we are not right for each other.
As I continued my spiritual journey and my personal development, I slowly realized that I was the source of all the drama based on my immaturity and unconscious choices, attitudes, and behaviors. As I began “waking up,” I incorporated daily spiritual studies and practices, including meditation, forgiveness, energy healing, and visioning. I realize I must live up to the high-minded virtues I desire to be ready for my soulmate, who will have similar consciousness and values.
Some may ask why I continue to pursue a deep spiritual, mental, emotional, physical, loving, romantic, sensual, empowering, and compassionate relationship when we have a 50% divorce rate for first-time marriages. It is higher for second and third marriages. Chapter 2, Relationship Karma, sheds some light on this phenomenon. Chapter 10, Building a Bridge to the New You, offers remedies in addition to the resources in the Appendix.
Others have asked, “Is it possible to find your soulmate?” To find our soulmates, we must know who we are looking for! These heart qualities of the Creator are our divine birthright contained within us. We must learn to align ourselves with our spirit to open the door to more happiness, peace, love, joy, and abundance. Chapter 2, Relationship Karma, and Chapter 3, Relationship Vision, guide us on what virtues to consider during our search.
The primal will of the divine is for the Good of all. When I sit in silence with the Presence, I know all is well, and I can see and feel her presence moving closer to me with each breath. I sense a loving, powerful, sensual, wise, compassionate, beautiful, and abundant presence coming closer and closer with each breath. I feel this in my bones. As I align with my true self and She aligns with me, we become One. This healing of the masculine and feminine, first within oneself and then with another, is a spiritual journey of the highest order.
I offer these life lessons learned, blessings, realizations, strategies, and exercises that I have utilized over several decades that have propelled my personal and spiritual growth. There are self-reflection questions and tasks to complete to better understand my own dating experience and how I may need to evolve to find my soulmate.
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